If you’re frustrated that the person you’re dating is shunning any conversation that sounds like commitment, this column is for you.
In fact, these nuggets of wisdom are straight from the newly released book, “Married to Commitment,” which ministers to married couples and singles alike in the area of relationships.
Many people who desire to be in relationships that ultimately lead to marriage get frustrated because the person they’ve become involved with romantically is unwilling to reasonably compromise in certain areas. In many cases, there is blatant disrespect. There are other relationships in which the object of someone’s affection isn’t necessarily a bad person, but simply just isn’t the right fit for who they are.
Anita Baker, who has always been an awesome songstress, made a song a few years ago called Wrong Man. The gist of the song is that a woman is in love with a man who disappoints her time and time again.
The intense pain of being in that relationship is taking its toll on her emotionally, and she comes to grips with the fact that she must tap into all the inner-strength she can to walk away and not look back.
The lyrics go like this: “. I told you once boy, baby, lemme tell you again, You Can’t do right ’cause you’re the wrong man .I hear you calling, but I ain’t no fool, I’ve got to be stronger, I’ve got to get over you
Each time I cry, it’s a sign of my pain.
Every tear that falls carries your name.
All I know is I cannot go on. Everything I do for you is wrong . Ain’t nothin’ I can say or can do, uh-uh, I just got to, I gotta get up, child, I gotta move . I don’t wanna leave you, but baby I’m givin’ you up I’d rather lose you, child, than to lose my mind . “
So many people are on the verge of losing their minds, literally, because they’re exhausting all of their energy and emotions into trying to get someone to see their worth, who they are and what they have to offer. If you can see yourself in this scenario, my friend, know that the man you’re losing sleep over cannot do right because he’s the wrong man.
Again, it’s not necessarily that he’s a bad person, but he’s not equipped to be the right man for you.
You, sister, are a virtuous woman (Proverbs 31:10). Therefore, the man “who can find” you is a man of virtue and who is first intimate with God (1st Corinthians 2:9,10,16).
Brothers, the wrong woman can’t do right by you.
Donald Lee is a Grambling alumnus and a former editor and photographer of The Gramblinite. Bre Eaton is a resident of Dallas. They are co-authors of “Married to Commitment.