Is it possible to find that storybook romance kind of love, in college, the type of love you stay awake dreaming about, or even the kind that Jamie Foxx sang about to Fancy on the final episode of The Jamie Fox Show? At the ripe age of 23, I know I haven’t found it yet? Is it close? Am I searching for love in all the wrong places? In fact, I thought college was the right place to find your first true love.
Most people my age have at least been in love once and some are even married by that age, if not earlier. I feel like I’m way behind the curve, but I haven’t given up hope just yet! I know my Prince Charming is out there somewhere, wherever he may be.
“Romeo, Romeo, where art thou Romeo,” makes you wonder if Shakespeare was really onto something when he wrote that over centuries ago.
Evolving from teenagers to young adults, you would think our mentalities about certain things including relationships and love would change just as we have, but for some reason they don’t; or it takes a little longer to realize.
Friends always come to me for advice on their love lives and I think it’s weird at times, because I’ve either been in their shoes or I’m going through the exact situation. A lot of the times I actually hear the same questions, comments or concerns. It’s simply amazing.
How do I know if he’s talking to other girls? I really like him, but I don’t want to seem too anxious! Or one of the most famous of them all is when the guy blames himself by saying, “It’s me, it’s not you, I just need time to myself to figure things out” and like Donnell Jones sang “Where I Wanna Be.”
When I came to college three years ago, life as I knew it turned upside down for me. It was my first real meaningful relationship out of high school, so I thought and everything was new to me. Three months into college, I found myself tied down to a guy that did not appreciate the real Shakari Briggs, only the 5 feet 7 inches frame, brown skin, long hair and slender physique I had to offer him just like the other guys after him had done.
There may seem to be countless candidates, but can you attract them for the right reasons and keep them? Maybe they’re the type to be curious, but not really interested and ready to settle down.
Growing up my mother always told me, “When you start dating, find someone who likes you more than you initially like that person. That person will always be true to you and your feelings for that person will grow to get stronger. To be so young, I never really understood what she meant, but now that I’m older and wiser, I acknowledge that statement.
I’ve learned that most men in college aren’t really serious or ready for a commitment, but that its still some guys out there that are willing and waiting patiently to make that one special girl feel like she’s living a fairy tale life. I commend you for you are a rare breed and hard to come by. For the ones playing over young girls hearts, karma is nothing to play with, because you will definitely reap what you sow, so be careful.
Your love life in college can be a joy if your lucky to find that right person. On the other hand it can also be a frustrating, overwhelming and disappointing experience unless you learn and grow into a woman who knows she deserves the dream she desires, which is to be loved.
I had to learn this over the years through countless relationships with guys that meant nothing for me.
Is it possible to find that genuine, knock you off your feet, butterflies in your stomach every time you see that person kind of love in college? My experiences have taught me that it’s not impossible, but it is definitely hard. Coming to college looking for love is like wearing a size 6 and wanting to squeeze into a size 4.
Although feasible and a tight fit at first, with a little wear, it’ll work, just keep trying it out and see what’s the best fit for you.