Valentine’s Day: It is what you make it

For some, Valentine’s Day is a day to be reminded of not having a partner. For others, it’s a day filled with love and compassion.Since I wasn’t ever the “lovey dovey” type, Valentine’s Day tends to be just another day. Although others may also see it as “just another day,” I can’t think of one female who doesn’t want to be recognized on V-day, whether she’s in a relationship or not.

Ever since the “Single Ladies” phenomenon, girlfriends pressured their boyfriends to “put a ring on it” instead of letting things happen. This pressure usually takes a toll on the relationship and can cause loneliness on V-day.

Seeing couples on campus makes being alone harder for some who are single and those in a long-distance relationship. Kissing, holding hands and V-day presents aren’t the best sight to see when you are single.

For those who aren’t in a relationship but are looking for love, be patient, your time will come. For those who think they’ve found “the one,” congratulations, cherish every moment.

While there are a lot of people who search for love, there are those who think that they’ve found “the one.”

Numerous reality love shows can make some people question if love is taken seriously anymore. Does “real love” truly exist? I believe so.

You may have to go through the wrong ones so when the right one comes along, you’ll be more appreciative.

Not everyone will marry their high school sweetheart. It may take you until mid-life to find the one you truly belong with.
One would think that since I am currently in a two-year relationship, I would go all out for V-day.

I wasn’t raised around those who put everything into their V-day. I’m not quite sure if that is a trait I carry.
Valentine’s Day is what you make it. There’s no point in being bitter about not being in a relationship.

Take the day to spend time with your friends, if they don’t have plans. If you’re in a long-distance relationship, send presents to your mate.

You can even have a date via Skype! Make the best of the situation that you are in. I haven’t always been the most optimistic, but I learned that if you always think negatively about something, it will be negative.

This could be the time to do something nice for someone who is single. Buy a balloon, card, chocolate or teddy bear for someone you know who doesn’t have a valentine. You don’t have to have a crush on someone for them to be your valentine.

You could just be friends, who enjoy each other’s company and don’t want to feel “lonely” on the day. You could even get something out of it (*wink*).

My Twitter timeline has been filled with females who are bothered by not having a valentine. Having loving friends makes the day better when you are single.

Hopeless romantics tend to usually “go all out” for V-day. Males tend to think of being romantic as buying gifts. Females want more spontaneity and special moments.

The day isn’t all about the gifts, it’s about the bond between two people.

Qiyas Smith is a sophomore mass communication major from New Orleans.