This semester to me seems to be one of pointing fingers and blaming. I’m not just talking about the recent issues on campus but I’m talking about relationships. Academics, romance and friendships have seemed to go wrong this semester.
When things go wrong it always seems that people begin to blame others but don’t realize that some of their actions prompted that response. Blaming is the action of assigning blame to another, often from oneself. Although this may sound elementary but when you point at someone you have three fingers pointing back at you.
It is almost midterms and I honestly don’t know every situation but I think it is honestly time for us to stop and evaluate what’s going on with ourselves so we can end the semester on a good note. Many people can turn into someone else when they don’t know who they are. It seems to me when
you know who you are and what you want in life then it will be hard for someone to change you. In evaluating yourself there are some questions you need to ask yourself, dealing with friendships, relationships, academically/professionally, spiritually and the YOU.
Spiritually. What is my relationship with God? What am I doing to get a better understanding with God? Am I taking time alone with God to pray? Do I go to church? Friendships. What kind of friend have I been? Do I call when I need something from my friends? Am I quick to point fingers? Did I gossip or keep up mess within the friendship circle when I should have kept my mouth shut? Have I upheld what a true friend should be? Sometimes it may hurt but when you look at it and see what is REALLY going on then you need to make a decision. It may be time to let some people go.
Relationships. Am I in denial about my partner? Am I using them? Do I just want to be with somebody so I will take whatever they dish out? Do I give back equally? Have I had any outside romances? What do I want out of a relationship?
Academically/professionally. Am I going to class? Am I working to my full potential? Am I leeching off of someone else’s grade? Am I taking advantage of opportunities such as internships? And the YOU. How do I interact with others? How do I talk to people? How do I behave? Do I like to be the center of attention? How do I present myself? Are MY actions fueled by jealousy, hate or pain?
Now some may be reading this and saying, wow, she has a lot to say, but what about her? I have recently sat down and evaluated my life and what needs to happen with it. I had to evaluate my friendships, my finances and my academics, in each one I’ve had to do some rearranging.
Once you sit down and really answer these questions then you can figure out what needs to be worked on and you can go about how to change it. Get to know who you are. Get to know what you want out of life. Consider it to be for the best because it will reduce a lot of stress and help you a lot in your everyday dealings.